Ridin’ Solo

People say that the struggle of being single only hits you at night.

When you miss the warm touch from your significant other’s body heat or their gentle forehead kisses from their nightly goodnight gesture; oh, the sorrow of riding solo!

But wait, there’s a silver lining!

Who needs a warm kiss when you can enjoy a warm bed as your body stretches to capacity? What about sporting a nest of unruly hair while you scarf down homemade cookies in bed?

Being single isn’t as bad as many would like to believe. It’s not a jail sentence of sad movies, tears, and pints of chocolate ice cream. Being alone is very liberating. Look at it as a way of getting to know the most important person you’ll ever meet, yourself. Truth is there are 7 billion people in the world so finding a significant other isn’t that hard – now finding one of substance is where the challenge lies.

Being on a cycle of one heartbreak after another without significantly getting over the last is an issue most of us face until we step off the conveyer belt of repetition and learn to be happily alone.

Here are a couple of the benefits of being single. Studies and personal experience show that being single helps you remain more focused. Relationship are tough – you’re not only worried about yourself anymore. Now you’re concerned about your partner’s emotions, stresses, fears, and more. Dealing with your significant others issues on top of yours will eventually become overwhelming. If you spend sometime single it’ll help you tackle all of your own insecurities and fears so that when you find the right one, you can be their stable shoulder to lean on.

Also being more fit is another benefit of single-hood. In relationships, we tend to get comfortable and spend our free time cuddled up or going to dinner, letting ourselves go, but once single, studies show we become more ambitious and active. We go on a mission to gain confidence and in control of our lives.  Spending time alone is also linked to being more creative. I guess all that freed up mental space and lack of insecurities and stress help us connect with a deeper part of our being, finding the creativity in us that’s usually dormant.

Being single also gives you free time to connect with friends, family, or your community. I know plenty of miserable married couples and plenty of vibrant happily single people. At the end of the day, happiness isn’t a destination so no material possession, outer source, or relationship statues will provide it. It’s a journey of self-realization, self-love, trial and tribulations that ultimately lead to enlightenment and self-assurance.

Notice that everything starts with the self.

So take that solo ride with joy, and let the window down, put the radio up, and sing at the top of your lungs. Cheers to single-hood.

                                                                                            P.S.:  “Relationship status? Fulfilled.”

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